Sometimes, especially today, we forget what real men look like. Many women today catch themselves calling the product that's sitting in their living room playing 2k all day, a "real man". It's not their fault. It's very possible that they never had a sufficient example of how a real man conducts himself. Don't shoot the messenger. Every boy desires to grow up to become a real man. Every woman wants to date and get married to a real man. So this begs the question:
What is a real man?
This is one who has left behind all the activities and ways of thinking that are, to be blunt, childish. He thinks, speaks and acts in a mature way. A real man is first and foremost the leader of himself. This makes him confident and a leader of others too. Not only is he respectful, he is empathetic about the feelings of others. Most of all, he is confident and makes those around him confident of themselves too. These are just a few of the characteristics of a real man. Read on to learn the 12 most important traits.
He cares about the needs of their significant others
He cares about more than how his partner fits into his life. He is genuinely concerned about the needs of his partner. Such needs include time, emotional bonding, physical satisfaction and intellectual stimulation. He will make time to provide all these for his partner. When she requests for some time, he does not feel interrupted or inconvenienced. Instead, he welcomes this activity and provides what is needed while still maintaining the order of priorities.
He takes responsibility for his faults
When he is in a relationship, he does not assume that the problems which arise are all caused by their partner. Some of the issues that can arise in a relationship are his fault. In such cases, he owns up to his mistakes and apologizes for them. Some men have the habit of projecting their mistakes onto their significant others. This is wrong and does not indicate maturity. He understands that his girlfriend, fiancé or wife is his teammate. Thus, he fosters the most empathetic form of companionship that he can.
He is passionate about things other than his relationships
To keep his life interesting and moving forward, he has other interests apart from his relationships. He has a hobby, profession or other activity that he finds fascinating. This shows that he has some ambition. Being passionate about activities that are not related to relationships is one of the traits of a real man.
He is self-reliant
One of the most evident indicators of independence is having one's own stream of income. It allows a man to have his own freedom. During high school and college, a boy is allowed to ask for money from his parents. However, once he is done with tertiary education, he must find a way to support himself and if possible, his significant other. He must find a way to rely on himself and build his own home. This way, he can be trusted to take care of someone else when the time arrives.
He is confident in his plan for his life
One of the main traits of a real man is vision. Most people have eyes, yet, they cannot see. Another is the strength to hold on to this vision. He must have an image of how he wants his life to turn out. Not only does he have this, he must ensure that others do not sway his resolve to follow a path of his own choosing. Thus, he must have a purpose and be strong enough to resist those who try to discourage him.
He is intrinsically motivated
Many people head online to watch motivational videos. Some of these are those seeking motivation to become men. While it may be helpful for a while, extrinsic motivation can only get you so far. Real men are aware of this. Therefore, they are intrinsically motivated. Their motivation comes from within. From deep in their hearts and souls comes the drive that they use to accomplish things in their life. Thus, real men are intrinsically motivated.
He is a non-conformist
A conformist is a person who follows the rules, style and customs of the crowd around them. They are led like sheep. They do not make up their own ideas. They simply borrow from what is popular and follow it blindly. Real men are not conformists. They are pioneers. They blaze their own trail however hard it may be.
He is physically fit
One of the most important traits of a real man is that he must be physically strong. His body must be fit enough to face the physical demands that he faces every day. He must also be strong enough to assist those around him accomplish physically challenging tasks. Fitness comes from a mindset. He must be willing to endure the pain of the challenging himself and emerge stronger. From time immemorial, real men were seen as strong and capable of protecting their families. This idea is alive today, but barely.
He listens before he speaks
It is easy to get tempted to boast and talk about yourself. Many people do this on a regular basis. For example, they talk about their new car, home, gossip and other accomplishments. Despite seeming flashy, he has no interest in talking about himself. He thinks very carefully before he says anything and lets other people do the talking before he utters a word.
He can defend himself
He is a leader. To be this, he has at one time in his life been on the receiving end of an assault. Whether it is with words or with force, he has been knocked down and knows what it feels like to bite the dirt. However, what makes him a leader is that he stood back up and learned how to prevent this from ever happening again. He learned how to stand his ground and defend himself.
He keeps himself and his surroundings spotlessly clean
Despite the general acceptance that men are allowed to be unkempt and disorderly, these are not qualities that indicate masculinity. They simply indicate laziness. He must always strive to be clean. He must also keep his surroundings very clean. He must keep his documents, bedding, clothes and other items in his house orderly and well organized. This creates discipline and contributes to his overall success in life.
He builds his own fortune
Some men are lucky enough to inherit a fortune form their family once they reach adult age. Some of them squander it all while others build it into over 10 times what it was initially. A real man is the one who will build it into multiples of what his inheritance was. He does not waste it and resort to begging his family members for handouts. He digs in his heels and builds his own wealth. Whether he does it alone or with the assistance of a partner, he eats the sweat of his brow.
The Important Take Away Here
Nowadays, there are many men professing to be real men. However, they actually are just fake and will cower in the face of adversity. However, there are some real men who are facing every day with strength and confidence. They are taking care of their families and raising strong children. They are also making a positive contribution to their societies. The traits above describe them. Read and learn them to become a real man.